FORMS OF ESTABLISHING AN ADEQUATE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILDREN

Аннотация

This article describes the form ofrelationship that parents establish with their child, pedagogical measures to establish a healthy relationship with the child. The psychological risks of an unhealthy relationship with a child are analyzed, and the methods used to build a healthy relationship are shown. Keywords:adequate attitude, child mentality, order, discipline, self-doubt, violence, right language, right action, right opportunity. Introduction. The relationship of parents in the family directly affects the development of the family, the future of children. There will be no development in a family without Tichlik - harmony. This directly affects the progress of society. So it is difficult to achieve harmony in the family, the progress of society, without correcting parental relations. We know that in our society there are a number of functions of the family. One of the most important tasks of the family is its communicative task. In doing so, the family will have to serve to meet the need of family members to interact and understand. Communication, on the other hand, is directly colloquial. According to statistical analysis, most children who are currently exposed to a suicide with deviant behavior do not have enough family communication. As a result of parents ' indifference, lack of conversation with the child, pedagogical and psychological problems arisein thechild. Results of studies and their discussion. The result of statistical analysis shows that children with strong emotional ties to their parents have high results in social and emotional development [3].In order for there to be a strong emotional bond between parent and child, it is necessary to be adequate in the relationship. What does the “adequate attitude " itself actually mean? How does adequacy manifest itself? Adequate means-suitable, balanced, appropriate. Adequate attitude means that it is appropriate, appropriate and correct to respond to a situation or person. For example, if someone has helped you, you can say thank you – this is an adequate attitude that means expressing gratitude in response to the good they have done is to react correctly. What adequate relationship can now be between parent and child? What needs to be doneto form an adequate attitude? Upbringing is always carried out in accordance with the Times of darcor. The method of upbringing, which was used fifty years ago, does not give the expected result if today it is fully applied to its child. It is also necessary to adapt Zero upbringing to its time. The so-called” key to the door of science“, Hazrat Ali, said in this regard:”it is not according to the teachings of your time that your children are brought up according to the realities of the times when they were born " [2]. Such an ekaan foster person should bring up the style of upbringing that he uses in the upbringing of a child in ways that are relevant to his timeinstead of the one left over from his ancestors. Before studying the adequate relationship between parents and children, page174 INTERNATIONAL JOURNAL OF ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE ISSN:2692-5206,ImpactFactor:12,23 AmericanAcademicpublishers,volume05,issue06,2025 Journal: https://www.academicpublishers.org/journals/index.php/ijai let's look at the inadequate circumstances in upbringing. So what are the methods of non- adequate upbringing? Rape-this includes mental abuse , physical abuse, sexual abuse. Mental abuse refers to threatening, shouting, insulting, criticizing a child. By physical violence, we understand the likes of beating, Doppelgänging, bodily injury. In the Uzbek people there would be a saying” the flesh is your bone – ours". But this transplant is losing its influence today. Psychologist- educators argue that it is difficult to achieve success in education by inflicting violence on a child. The following problems arise as a result of violence against to child: -the formation of insecurity, as a result of which it is difficult to find its place in social life; - a slowdown in spiritual development, a chaos in the emotions of the result, followed by an inability to control one's own emotional state. “Why do you abuse a child?", to which most parents respond: “ I am teaching him discipline”. However, how justified is the use of such a punitive method as violence to discipline a child? Turkish psychologist Hadicha Kubro defines the purpose of the discipline as: “the original model of discipline must be to teach our child to see the Naija of this action when he makes some mistake. The mistake that most of us, who are struggling without being able to teach discipline to their child, is that we act in the direction of “do what I say, do not do what I do”. 3 adequate (correct) methods in achieving discipline: correct language, correct movement, correct opportunity. Whatshould bethecorrect language? 1. Don't tell a child anything that can't be said to an older person! The child is the weakest, the person in need of help does not mean that it is po