CAUSES OF DISPUTES BETWEEN HUSBANDS AND WIFE

Аннотация

The emergence and development of conflicts between spouses in the family can occur on the basis of a certain unhealthy psychological environment. In this sense, conflicts also have their own range. Sometimes in conflict situations, a husband or wife uses all their abilities to overcome, involving a third party. Such a conflict situation creates a certain socio-psychological environment. In this article, we will shed light on the causes of conflicts between spouses. Keywords: conflict, spouses, family, interpersonal relationships, family relationships Introduction. The more a man is “manly” and the more a woman is “womanly,” that is, the more both are able to psychologically demonstrate the qualities worthy of their gender, the more harmonious, stable, and happy the family will be. On the contrary, if a woman tries to take the initiative in the family, such actions become the basis for the emergence of conflicts in the family[1]. Conflict in interpersonal relationships in the family, especially between spouses, leads to loss of happiness in the family, coldness, and conflict. Among the many factors that influence family relationships, one can also mention “popular culture”, which is presented from the outside world as a destructive factor for our morality, as a process that destroys human psychology[4]. Conflicts are disagreements between spouses, a mismatch of their interests. This leads to misunderstanding between them. Discussion. In newly formed families, as a result of the development of marital relations in one way or another, four types of families conditionally arise. These are: - families with strengthened relationships; - families with temporarily strengthened relationships; - families with new conflicts arising and recurring; - families with constantly broken relationships and separation[2]. Among these, the first type of family is the most suitable. Each of our young people should strive to build such a strong family. The second type of family is families with temporarily strengthened relationships. In such families, if the spouses draw the right conclusions from the past conflicts and conflicts in time, realize their mistakes in time, and try to understand each other, then mutual cooperation can also occur. If favorable conditions do not arise, if the spouses do not have sufficient knowledge and experience in understanding and correcting their mistakes, or if they do not want to eliminate these mistakes, and if their older relatives and loved ones, based on their rich life experience, do not give guidance and advice to the young, and, on the contrary, inappropriately interfere in the life of the young family, in such cases, the temporary reduction of tensions achieved may later escalate with the emergence of new conflicts. The third type of families is characterized by the nature of the post-conflict situation:[5] families in the chain of "partial resolution of conflicts, intensification of tensions, emergence of new page 2650 INTERNATIONAL JOURNAL OF ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE ISSN: 2692-5206, Impact Factor: 12,23 American Academic publishers, volume 05, issue 05, 2025 Journal: https://www.academicpublishers.org/journals/index.php/ijai conflicts, their partial resolution again" are the most characteristic of these four types of families and require serious attention. Because some families (the fourth type) can break up due to their badness, deepening conflicts, and aggravation of tensions. Of course, the event of divorce is tragic for marital and family relations. Especially in such cases, if there are children in the family, they are left without a father or mother. After divorce, the socio-psychological state of both parties is aggravated. However, a person whose family has been broken for the first time can correct his mistakes the next time, or even "find his equal" later, and in most cases live a happy life. However, another aspect of the third category of families, characteristic of the Uzbek ethnos, is that Uzbeks, as well as Tajiks, Kyrgyz, and Kazakhs, have a strong tradition of negative attitudes towards family breakdown, unlike European nations. That is, divorce is condemned by public opinion. In addition, incest is more common in Uzbek families than in families of other fraternal nations. If in such families the relationship between spouses does not develop as expected, that is, they are quarrelsome, quarrelsome, do not understand each other, do not fit together, and cannot psychologically unite, they act in the manner of "the family should not be broken", "the kinship should not be broken", and try to preserve their families at all costs. Results and analysis. Currently, most of the unpleasant events that occur in the context of marital and family relations, various nervous disorders, diseases, various crimes, murders, suicides, betrayals, violations of child upbringing and a number of other disappointments fall on this third category of families. Therefore, it is advisable for not on